Is it a f*ck yes? Or a hell no!
Anal Sex. Do you love it or hate it? Is it dirty or naughty? Is it a f*ck yes or GOD NO!?
The answer comes from you! We seek pleasure in different ways and there’s no shame in licking (sorry liking) the back door entrance.
However it’s still not everyone’s cup of tea, most of the time it takes trust, comfort and safety in a partnership to explore this route, and even with all of those ticked off it can still be painful or uncomfortable for people on the receiving end (for some it will always be a strictly one way street).
The truth is the distribution of pleasure throughout our intimate anatomy is different from person to person.
Here’s a fact: Some people have more perineal erectile tissue so it makes anal more pleasurable. It can be true that orgasms that originate from anal play can be felt more intensely for some people because of the nerves that innervate the different 'types' of orgasms and how it is perceived by the individual.
For example, in women, the clitoris and anus are connected mainly to the pudendal nerves, the vagina mainly to the pelvic nerves, and the cervix to the hypogastric, pelvic, and vagus nerves. It's pretty safe to say that there is usually a blend of stimulation going on and that’s why an orgasm through anal can be more intense and explosive!
When exploring anal play I think it's safe to say, no pain, no poo, try again for round 2! A friend recently recommended trying it in the shower for the first time, so you can feel as comfortable as possible. Lube it up, and slow it down. This is all about teasing your anus, not stuffing it in!
My advice? Do what feels right for you, with someone you feel 150% safe with. Everyone (and their anal) is different. Approach each experience with an open mind, and a clean condom!
Content Written for 'Loving Lila' - Sex & Intimacy coach